Sunday, October 10, 2010

Big Girls Are Judgemental Too...

I was searching through other blogs that focus on weight loss, and I noticed that the weight that different bloggers have to lose vary greatly from 20 pounds all the way up to 200 lbs.

Its funny I know that when me and my friends get together and I won't say I'm not guilty of this but I'm trying to work on it we can be quite judgemental of people who have less that 30 or so lbs to lose. Honestly I've heard us scoff at a blog with someone who has started out at less than 200 lbs and it had me thinking.

Why? We hate when someone judges us on sight alone or who doesn't believe that we can reach our goals when we have big numbers to lose, especially those of us who are in the triple digit club as far as weight loss goes.

Its very small minded to be unsupportive of someone whose beginning weight just may be our ultimate goal weight after losing 100 plus pounds. Weight loss is not limited to just those of us who are considered seriously overweight or obese.

And just because its a smaller number does not mean that their journey is going to be any easier or that the weight will come off any quicker. Doesn't mean that they won't have setbacks or fall off track. And I'm certain that them reaching their target weight is just as important as me reaching my own.

Why say I wonder why she wants to lose weight or why is she worried when she has so little to lose? Why belittle her efforts when I most certainly don't want someone to ask me why I try when I have so far to go? Why do anything other than offer support and best wishes as a fellow sister goes for her goals?

All I can think is that it has to be a form of "hating" or body envy, though we may never say it as such. And its something we have to stop. The black community is at its highest unhealthy percentage. We have the highest occurences of weight related diseases that can be avoided simply by changing the way we eat and exercise. Type 2 Diabetes, heart disease, and high blood pressure. All easily avoidable, so whats to say that someone losing just 20 to 30 lbs. Can't help them to achieve this goal?

I've decided the purpose of my blog is to chronicle my own journey to the healthiest woman I can be, I have a long journey ahead of me but I intend to see it all the way through. I hope I can inspire or motivate someone who wants to start or restart their healthy journey regardless of what the loss goal is. I will remain positive and support all fellow bloggers, and I hope that everyone acheives the goals they set for themselves. With that being said, happy losing!
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  1. Hey lady, I've added you to the challenge, weight in is on Friday, tell me how much you have lost. All the best!

  2. I liked this post...for real.
    I can see both sides of this as I have a friend who like 135 lbs and still working her ass off. I’m all like "aww heifer you ain’t got to work out so damn hard" I know EXACTLY what you mean. Truth is I think the closer you get to where you want to be the HARDER it is to stay focused. well at least for me. and then when I get there its like I sabotage myself...
    Its a long road but the blogs help in so many ways.
    Have a great week :-)